Choices, but Not Outcomes
You can make choices, but you cannot choose outcomes. Outcome-based thinking, like expectations, leads to disappointments and resentments, and sometimes traumatic heartbreak and heartache. Acceptance, though a tall order, is the answer. It is simple, but it isn’t...
Fitness and Fast Food
A few hundred days ago, you could frequently find me in the fast food drive thru line at either McDonald’s or Dunkin Doughnuts, especially after a trip to my gym next door, double especially if I had a kid with me, wanting to reward them with a treat for getting up...
Winks By Example
I never set out to have a cat; he just sort of came upon me. And I especially never set out to have a blind cat. But I have learned so much from my little feline friend. Two main things come to mind: 1. seeing him adventure around the house, and readily go up and...
Maybe Planting the Seeds is Enough: Reframing Outcome-based Thinking
When we plant seeds, literally or figuratively, in any aspect of our lives or the lives of those around us, it’s only human to want to see them grow. When we put in effort, we expect to see results. But outcome-based thinking is a dangerous tightrope to walk...
Nikola Rosa is an artistic rendering of the soul that has come to exist after rising from the ashes. Her thoughts are from Nancy Gass, and yet they are in some ways, a different person entirely. We all have hearts and souls that are a deep ocean of complexity and this dichotomy is no different.